Ask Mary Helen

Podcasts that remind you that “You’re Not Done Yet!” and “You’re Not Alone” — Life is a Daring Adventure

From September 2016 through December 2017, I was fortunate to be one of the co-founders of the podcast Retiree Rebels. Here are some of my favorite “Ask Mary Helen’s” which continue to speak to the life issues of being over 55 and finding an  adventured new life.

Ditch the Bucket List - Be Curious

For the nearly and newly retired, you don’t need another to-do-list hanging over your head. You’re retired or almost.

I propose that instead of that bucket list of things to do before you die, you change your mindset and become curious.

Here are five great tips on keeping your mindset flexible and being as curious as a 5-year old. Change that old adage about curiosity killed the cat into curiosity keeps retirement amazing.

 

Dick and Jane Retire -- Gender Issues and 'Grey Divorce'

Retirement can be hazardous to your relationship. Financial issues, different expectations, and divorce all present major challenges to living ’till death do us part’.

I discuss the staggering statistics on money and divorce in this week’s podcast. Listen for tips on how both Dick and Jane can adjust their partnership to better fit their retirement.

Mattering: Do I matter now that I'm retired?

Do you wake up in the morning feeling like you have an important role to play in the grand scheme of things? During those early months of retirement, folks often try to figure out what their purpose is now that they’re not working. They wonder if they matter.

I’ll view mattering through the lens of popular culture and the literature of transitions. I even share a recipe on mattering you just might want to try.

65 is only a number, right? Then why does it mean we're old?

On January 5, 2017, I hit the big age milestone of 65! Time to wish me the best.. or is it?

Birthdays can be fraught with emotional overtones and societal expectations. In this Ask Mary Helen essay, I ruminate on the meaning of 65 (“No, I’m not dead yet”) and how to turn societal expectations of my imminent demise on its head.

 

 

Ya Gotta Have Friends - How to make friends after 50

Research tells us that 1 in 5 adults over the age of 50 are lonely. Research also tells us that being able to make our ‘work buddies’ into ‘play buddies’ allows us to live healthier and happier lives.

But, how do we make friends as an older adult. I talk about loneliness, happiness and lay out a seven-prong strategy for finding friends. As Bette Midler said, ‘ya gotta have friends’.

5 Steps to Your Retirement

Retirement is really a transition. I review my five steps that help to create your exit strategy from the workplace and lead to stepping into your life.

From planning to reinvention each of the five steps provides you options for reaching the position of CEO of your life.

 

Watch Your Language -- 3 words to empower your life right now!

I suggest that in our retirement, watching our language can create a vibrant life. Keeping a growth mindset rather than a fixed mindset will provide a way to view your retirement plans. Make sure to listen till the end for the 3 words that help you to create this growth mindset.

 

The Best Time to Retire

The best time to retire is when you’re ready. Absolutely!

I also think the best time just might be summer as well. Making friends, getting out and enjoying nature are three keys to a successful retirement.

I propose some great ways to do just that. Wait till you hear my summer games to retire with joy and fun.

 

Legacy on the Page: 5 Outrageous Tips for Writing Your Memoir

On Memorial Day week I remember those veterans who have lost their lives in service to our country. It reminds me that many of the nearly and newly retired also want to remember their lives by writing a memoir.

I present 5 outrageous tips for those who wish to begin the process of writing their story, their life legacy.

 

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